In a recent interview with Out magazine, actress and wife of Ellen DeGeneres, Portia de Rossi admitted that she does not plan on having kids with her partner. This shows women in their 30s and 40s that adding "mom" to their list of accomplishments is not a requirement.
de Rossi was blunt and honest in her interview, saying, "You have to really want to have kids, and neither of us did. So it's just going to be me and Ellen and no babies."
She went on to explain, "There comes some pressure in your mid-30s, and you think, 'Am I going to have kids so I don’t miss out on something that other people really seem to love? Or is it that I really genuinely want to do this with my whole heart?' I didn’t feel that my response was ‘yes’ to the latter."
Although DeGeneres and de Rossi claim to have a very happy marriage and one that has outlasted countless other Hollywood couples, to them having children is just simply not something they wish to do. de Rossi also made a great point by mentioning the outside pressure that women feel to raise children.
This decision of theirs sends a great message to women. When you already have a career, especially one as demanding as this couple’s, you are totally allowed to decide that having kids would either be too much or is just not something you are interested in. Our society puts so much value on being a “supermom” or “having it all” when in reality it is totally fine if your “all” does not involve taking care of babies.
This is just another example where women are pressured to be a certain kind of way because “everyone else is doing it,” when actually there are couples everywhere who make the choice against having kids.